A setback in your self esteem can be an almost debilitating blow. Job losses, break-ups, and fights with your best friend or gaining five pounds after losing twenty can all set you back. The list of potential setbacks in your self esteem is endless. No matter what event or bad day has thrown you back, however, you can make a comeback. You can regain your self esteem.
Understanding Self Esteem
Self esteem is your inner sense of self worth and self respect. Sometimes, in the wake of a setback, it can feel difficult to acknowledge or truly feel that you are worthy of even your own respect. This drop in self esteem can lead to bigger problems and really diminish your quality of life as a whole.
Consider a Different Perspective
Sometimes the best course of action to come back from a setback like this is to look outside yourself. Consider your entire ordeal from a different perspective. It may help you shine some light on the issue at hand, and help you overcome your loss of confidence.
Here are some perspectives you can try:
- Walk in someone else’s shoes – Everybody makes mistakes, and there are no exceptions to that rule. No one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t worthy of love and respect. To put this in perspective, try seeing your situation from an outsider’s point of view. If someone else, especially someone you love, had gone through the same ordeal or made the same mistakes, would you want them to wrestle with low self esteem? If the person that you are picturing is worthy of self-respect, then so are you.
- Setback or step up? – If your setback comes in the form of a life event such as a break-up or job loss, try considering the event as a step forward instead of a setback. Whatever happens, you are always moving forward with your life. This event is just another stepping stone to what will surely be a bright future.
- Understand your place in the world – Another perspective to consider is your overall place in the world. Sometimes remembering how many people there are on this planet, and how inexplicably big the universe is, can make your ordeal feel so much smaller.
Consider the Positives
When you’ve put your ordeal into perspective, consider also the positives of the situation. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself all your favorite things about yourself – your bright and beautiful eyes, your amazing smile, and your fun sense of humor. Start thinking about everything good you have, both inside and outside.
Know You Are Worthy
Remember that no matter what happens in life, no matter what mistakes you might have made or what setbacks have held you down, that you are worthy. You are worthy of the love and respect of the most important person in your life – you.
To prove your love, do something to treat yourself. Get your hair done, go for a run, get a massage or buy a new outfit. Take a course or do something that makes you feel good that is not addictive or dangerous. Practice self care!
A blow to your self esteem can be crippling if you let it. The strongest weapon in your arsenal, however, is yourself. You can overcome this hurdle, but you must first believe in yourself.Share